What does success mean to you, and how do you know when you’ve achieved it?
Where did your definition of success come from? Was it your parents, your community, school, society at large, or some other source? And when did you last check in to see if your definition of success really serves you?
When I started writing a book about success I was forced to take a deep look at my beliefs, conditioned programs, and old stories about success. What I discovered was incredibly interesting to me. Here’s an excerpt from my book, Igniting Success Beyond Beliefs, describing my discovery:
“My definition of success has changed many times through my life and I’m sure yours has too. As a younger person, without realising it, I automatically wore many of my parents’ beliefs like a coat. These beliefs included an unspoken definition of success. If I were to capture that definition it would look something like this:
- Success is completing a university degree, getting a good, stable, job with a lasting future, one that pays enough for you to buy your own home and live in a good area.
- Success is getting married to someone of the same social and economic background as you, having two children and at least one cat.
- Success is taking a family holiday in the summer and driving a reasonably new car that is always kept clean and tidy.
- Success is having a well-organised, clean and tidy home, not too cluttered, that closely resembles a show home.
- Success is keeping yourself to yourself, staying out of other people’s business, and meeting for coffee once a week with a girlfriend.
If I were to actually apply this definition of success to my life, I would have failed on everything except the cat. If I believed that not conforming to this definition means I am a ‘failure’, I could easily find myself feeling bad or sad, but the truth is it’s simply not my definition of success. Ironically, it is only as I write this that I see clearly how much of my early struggle came from my not fitting into someone else’s unspoken and subtle but nevertheless very present definition of success. Could this be true for you too? Take a moment to think about any hidden, subtle definitions of success that may still be at work within you.
When we think about how success is defined in the developed countries of the world it is all based on external things. This would be an okay plan if people felt good about themselves when they ‘achieved success’, but on the whole they are miserable. What if the world has got its idea of success all back to front? What if we are defining success in the wrong way, and looking for success in the wrong place? What if success comes from the inside out and has nothing to do with what the Tao Te Ching calls “the world of the 10,000 things”? It’s not that achieving external results, or driving a sexy sports car, are bad things. But they come and go throughout our life. Defining our success by transient external things is unlikely to create the deep and lasting sense of inner well-being that most of us are seeking.”
Once you get clear about how you define success in your life, no matter what it might look like or where it might come from, then you are ready to get busy achieving it. That’s what this weeks (and next weeks) show is really about.
You have probably seen lots of information on goal setting, time management, healthy eating, and myriad other things that might be useful in achieving success. I’m bringing you a different approach–the inside out approach.
In the next two weeks we’re going to talk about 5 surprising principles for success taken from my book. We go deep into Quantum Metaphysics (where quantum science and metaphysical spirituality collide). You will have the opportunity to change your mind, re-evaluate the things you think, and get out of your mind and into your heart.
Listen here now.
The first principle is based in the Quantum Field; you have the power to effect the field with your thoughts. Einstein proved that energy and matter are interchangeable and that the human mind can affect how that change expresses itself. Since then much more research has been done in the field of epigenetics, neuroscience, and cell biology. We now know that the thoughts we think, and the beliefs we hold are effecting the experience of life we have. Learn how to master your mind and start creating new waves of possibility in the quantum field.
Listen now to learn more and discover the second and third principles.
Keep checking back for the video of the show, and watch last week’s show here.